When it comes to wedding planning, one of the things that I am most frustrated by is that so many people have opinions about what you're "supposed" to do.
You're supposed to wear a white dress, it's traditional.
You're supposed to serve alcohol, otherwise no one will have fun.
You're supposed to invite your parent's neighbor's niece, because she invited your parents to HER wedding.
You're supposed to have dancing.
You're supposed to have a cake.
You're supposed to have the kind of ceremony that everyone expects you to.
And on and on and on.
If you've ever planned a wedding, you know how easy it can be to become overwhelmed by the expectations that other people have for your wedding.
Too often it seems like weddings become about everyone EXCEPT the bride and groom.
It becomes more about the party right now and less about the joining of two lives for always.
Today I want to let you know that it's ok to make your wedding as weird, as wacky, or as basic as you want to.
If there's something you hate, don't do it.
If there's a "tradition" that doesn't feel right, tweak it or get rid of it.
If you want to break every rule in the book, go for it.
This is YOUR wedding.
No matter WHAT choices you make in life, you're always going to have people who are going to be critical of them.
You can't please everyone, and some people are just impossible to please, so go ahead and stick to your guns!
That said, you need to be aware that your choices have consequences.
When you're making your unusual choices, keep in mind the manifesto of the Awesome Etiquette podcast from The Emily Post Institute: focus on the principles of consideration, respect, and honesty.
When you're making your unusual choices, keep in mind the manifesto of the Awesome Etiquette podcast from The Emily Post Institute: focus on the principles of consideration, respect, and honesty.
Great-Aunt Mildred might be hurt if you abruptly refuse to wear the family wedding veil, so break it to her kindly and explain your choice to her respectfully.
Your dad will probably be disappointed if you tell him you'd rather walk down the aisle alone, so be honest with him and considerate when you talk to him about it.
You're going to have to be ok with hurting a few feelings, but make sure you're polite about it.
If you need validation or a professional opinion, you can hit me up via A Professional Bridesmaid.
Your dad will probably be disappointed if you tell him you'd rather walk down the aisle alone, so be honest with him and considerate when you talk to him about it.
You're going to have to be ok with hurting a few feelings, but make sure you're polite about it.
If you need validation or a professional opinion, you can hit me up via A Professional Bridesmaid.
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